If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brothers, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
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Clement Of Alexandria
AD 215
"Qui autem, inquiunt, non oderit patrem, vel matrem, vel uxorem, vel filios, non potest meus esse discipulus.".
He knows accurately the declaration, "Unless ye hate father and mother, and besides your own life, and unless ye bear the sign.
But let neither this trouble you, nor the still harder saying delivered in another place in the words, "Whoso hateth not father, and mother, and children, and his own life besides, cannot be My disciple."
If any man come to Me, &c. That having left all (ver33) he may, with the Apostles and the seventy disciples, follow Me, the Master and Teacher of perfection.
All these things are of evangelical counsel, and not of precept although they may be said in a measure to extend to all Christians, inasmuch as they are bound to hate their parents, i.e. to give up the love of their friends and relations—even the love of life, if such love oppose itself to the law of Christ. Hence Maldonatus thinks this to be of precept; Jansenius, of counsel. But see S. Matthew 10:37.
Suarez (lib. ii. De Concurs. Dom.) says, "to hate" signifies the same as "to love less," in which sense it is written, "Jacob have I loved, but Esau have I hated." Romans 9:13.
Hate not: The law of Christ does not allow us to hate even our enemies, much less our parents: but the meaning of the text is, that we must be in that disposition of soul so as to be willing to renounce and part with every thing, how near or dear so ever it may be to us, that would keep us from following Christ. (Challoner)
The word hate is not to be taken in its proper sense, but to be expounded by the words of Christ, (Matthew x. 37) that no man must love his father more than God (Witham)
Christ wishes to show us what dispositions are necessary in him who desires to become his disciple; (Theophylactus) and to teach us that we must not be discouraged, if we meet with many hardships and labours in our journey to our heavenly country. (St. Gregory)
And if for our sakes, Christ even renounced his own mother, saying, Who is my mother, and who are my brethren? why do you wish to be treated more delicately than your Lord? (St. Ambrose)
He wished also to demonstrate to us, that the hatre...
Parents, wives, children, will have to be left behind, for God's sake.
In the same manner, therefore, we maintain that the other announcements too refer to the condition of martyrdom. "He" says Jesus, "who will value his own life also more than me, is not worthy of me"