If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brothers, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
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Tertullian of Carthage
AD 220
Parents, wives, children, will have to be left behind, for God's sake.
In the same manner, therefore, we maintain that the other announcements too refer to the condition of martyrdom. "He" says Jesus, "who will value his own life also more than me, is not worthy of me"