Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.
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John Chrysostom
AD 407
This must be understood therefore to relate to Deaconesses. For that order is necessary and useful and honorable in the Church. Observe how he requires the same virtue from the Deacons, as from the Bishops, for though they were not of equal rank, they must equally be blameless; equally pure.
Ruling their children and their own houses well.